Two months after our first child was born, my husband’s career led us to move far away from family and friends. This meant we had no babysitters for our son, giving us two options for our romantic date nights: quit having one or figure out a way to bring the baby with us.

We really wanted to keep working at pursuing each other and having a strong marriage, even through the baby-rearing years. So we decided to go with the latter choice. And it actually worked out better than we thought, once we figured out a few key strategies.

Here are a few things we’ve learned: