Dear Friends, In my years of experience counseling married couples, I’ve seen firsthand that even under the most ideal of circumstances, marriage can be tough! The joining of two people with distinct backgrounds, personalities, and perspectives is a beautiful thing, but it’s guaranteed to come with challenges as well. And if marriage can be tough,…
Dear Friends, Love is a sacrifice. We should treat our spouse as someone of great value and care for their needs. But sacrifice should be motivated by love, not fear. I keep a file of old news articles — it’s my “I’ll get around to it” file. The coronavirus quarantine has given me the chance…
Dear Friends, Marriage struggles are normal. But often, couples ask, “Is divorce the right answer?” These 15 questions will help you evaluate your marriage. Mike and Sandy* came to see me for marriage therapy. They struggled with one of the most challenging questions a married couple can ask: Is divorce the right answer? It’s a high-stakes question…
Dear Friends, The qualities of common kindness, honesty, empathy, loyalty and trust are gifts that each spouse gives to the other. This friendship foundation enhances relationship happiness throughout the marriage. Before we began to date, Greg and I were friends for more than three years. We attended the same college and had classes together. I…
Dear Friends, What is a healing separation? A healing separation (also known as a trial or therapeutic separation) is temporary and structured time apart to help a couple heal their broken relationship. During this time, the couple works toward individual healing and growth. They also evaluate and change dysfunctional patterns and behaviors in their marriage.…
Dear Friends, Do you feel miles apart in your marriage? When you’ve just said your “I-do”s, it’s hard to imagine ever drifting like this. Then, as the years go on and pressures of finances, kids and careers add up, you wake up one day feeling like two strangers in a foreign land. How did you…
Dear Friends, Marriage is great. But marriage is hard. And sometimes, staying married might even seem to be too hard. Do any of these situations fit the current status of your relationship? You’re currently separated from your spouse and you’re wondering if you can ever get back together. You’re only staying together “for the kids”…
Dear Friends, Crosspoint’s next 21 Day Marriage Challenge (online) is from Tuesday 6 – 26 April 2021. Registrations now open. Take your marriage on a 21 day discovery, enrichment and blessing. We challenge you to invest in the most precious and fulfilling human relationship. Meaningful connection. Practical engagement. Short but rich teaching. Recalibrate your marriage…
Dear Friends, Would it surprise you to know that there are multiple ways most of us have damaging, subconscious, “it doesn’t count if . . .” or “if they loved me, they would . . .” expectations of our spouse? Here Shanti shares just two examples. To read more, Please Click Here
Dear Friends, It probably won’t surprise you to hear that money can be a sore spot for many couples. I know this to be true because every day here at Focus on the Family, we hear from husbands and wives who are struggling to find common ground on this issue. And I also know from…